I’ll never tell you what to eat

I can help you lose weight but I won’t tell you what to eat.  

I’ve been maintaining my weight loss for 25 years. I know about weight loss and I know about me, but aside from your wanting to lose weight, I don’t know anything about you. That’s why I won’t tell you what to eat. You and I both know that if I did, you probably wouldn’t want to eat it, anyway.

How long could you stay on a weight loss food plan if you felt like this about the food you had to eat?


Do you think that’s odd?

“Really, she’s going to help me lose weight and she doesn’t want to tell me what to eat? What good is that? What good is she, for that matter!”

Somebody just asked me that question the other day. I wrote a blog about how it could be a mistake to eat like a vegan to lose weight. The mistake isn’t eating like a vegan; the mistake is expecting the switch to miraculously make your excess weight melt away.

There was a time when going vegan would be more likely to result in weight loss because vegans were largely dependent on whole foods. There weren’t many, if any, vegan processed foods. No vegan cheese, vegan mayonnaise, vegan textured soy protein that tastes like chicken!

Now, as vegan eating becomes more attractive to folks, count on food manufacturers to create mass produced, mass marketed vegan fare. It’s become easy to switch to vegan without losing your bad animal-eating behaviors that made you gain weight in the first place. You can snack all day on vegan foods with added fat and calories, straight out of the bag!

Just because this is a vegan bagel and non-dairy, vegan “cream cheese spread” do you think you could eat as much of them as you wanted without sacrificing weight loss progress?

I was accused of shirking my responsibility to inform people about the healthiest way to eat. Whether or not vegan is the healthiest way to eat doesn’t even matter for weight loss. What matters is, “what do you like to eat and what do you dislike?”

If you want your weight loss results to last, it’s committing to lifelong changes. As wonderful as it is to lose weight, when it comes with the price of eating unpalatable food or giving up food favorites (like anything from animals), it’s a price too high for most to keep paying.

There can be health benefits to gain simply by losing weight, even if the quality of your diet is questionable. No, I’m not saying that it’s not uncommon for people to get healthier just because they lose weight. How the weight was lost matters much less. Losing body fat, especially the most dangerous kind, visceral fat, can positively affect a lot of markers indicative of good health.

My passion is helping people lose weight.

I love celebrating weight loss success with happy winners at losing!

I love celebrating weight loss success with happy winners at losing!


The best way to do that is to guide people to reduce their calories. I usually combine reducing calories in with encouragement to burn more calories through enjoyable physical activity to further aid weight loss success.

Guiding you to make better food choices is not the same as telling you what to eat.

It’s helping you discover good-for-you foods you enjoy and that help to keep you feeling full and satisfied. Good-for-you foods are foods that are low in sugar and fat, especially added sugars and saturated fat. Good-for-you foods are lower in calories and full of stuff that’s, yup I’m going to say it, GOOD FOR YOU!

Choose the foods you want to eat and enjoy them in balance and moderation!

Choose the foods you want to eat and enjoy them in balance and moderation!

There are lots of good-for-you foods. Some of them are especially good for us because they support a healthy cardiovascular system. Some may be better for brain health and avoid Alzheimers disease and dementia. Some foods help to keep our bones strong. Some foods contain lots of antioxidants that protect us against cancer. Some foods can do all of those things!

The best thing about these foods is there is an endless variety of them. If you don’t like one, there’s another you might love. Fish, for example, are good for brain health, but fish tastes like, well, (ugh to me) fish. If you don’t like fish, you can feed your brain a handful of nuts instead!

For fish lovers, fish is a good choice. It's nutritious and lower in calories than a lot of other protein sources.

For fish lovers, fish is a good choice. It’s nutritious and lower in calories than a lot of other protein sources.

And if you don’t like fish at all, no need to at it. Nuts are also a nutritious source of protein.

Contrary to popular belief, eating food you don’t like very much isn’t a good way to reduce the overall amount of food you eat.

Control comes from satisfaction and eating without guilt. Don’t be afraid that eating food that tastes good will make it hard for you to stop until you’ve eaten too much. I can help you eat in moderation and balance with confidence.

If you really want to give yourself the best weight loss, and long-lasting weight loss results, you need to incorporate treats as part of your food plan. Whatever your treats may be, sugary, fatty, spicy, carbo-rific or alcoholic, all the aforementioned or something else not mentioned,  You will want to enjoy treats and you’ll need strategies and the confidence to know you can do it without losing control.

It's not about choosing apples over cupcakes. It's learning when to eat apples and when to eat a cupcake.

It’s not about choosing apples over cupcakes. It’s learning when to eat apples and when to eat a cupcake.

Helping you incorporate your foundation of good-for-you foods with your occasional treats is my specialty. I can help you build your confidence. I can empower you by taking away the guilt you associate when you eat certain treats. I can help you to become aware so that you stop habitual, mindless eating. I can help you get the most enjoyment out of every calorie you eat.

That’s what my blogs are about. You don’t need me or anybody else to tell you what to eat. I don’t want to tell you what to eat. I want to help you find what’s eating you so that you gain control over how and what you eat.



Jackie Conn

About Jackie Conn

Jackie Conn is married and has four grown daughters and four grandchildren. She is a Weight Watchers success story. She's a weight loss expert with 25 years of experience guiding women and men to their weight-related goals. Her articles on weight management have been published in health, family and women's magazines. She has been a regular guest on Channel 5 WABI news, FOX network morning program Good Day Maine and 207 on WCSH.